Today’s episode is all about what we can do after we travel to re-establish our routines and stay motivated, energized, and focused after a long trip. Russ and Mika talk a lot on this show about how building routines can help us to better balance our lives. But when you take a break from...
Episode #42: Finding Motivation After a Vacation
Russ and Mika talk a lot on this show about how building routines can help us to better balance our lives.
But when you take a break from those routines, they can be very difficult to get back into. This is why we often find ourselves feeling out of alignment after we travel or go on vacation.
Today’s episode is all about what we can do after we travel to re-establish our routines and stay motivated, energized, and focused when we return to our daily lives after a long trip.
In this episode, you will learn:
• The reasons we struggle after a trip.
• Why it’s important to keep to your schedule while you travel.
• The ways that resistance can get in the way of our goals.
• Why you should always try to allow yourself a buffer day to refuel and recharge.
Mentioned in this episode:
• Russ Perry on Instagram
• Mika Perry on Instagram
• The Sober Entrepreneur by Russ Perry
• The Russ Perry Show
• Episode #28: Understanding the “Core Four”
• The War of Art by Steven Pressfield
• Beats by Dre
• Binaural Beats
• Trader Joes Everything But the Bagel Seasoning Blend
• Alt Summit
• Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport
• Weezer – Mexican Fender
• Seth Godin
• Deep Work by Cal Newport
• Run The Jewels
• Nekter Juice Bar
Do you have questions, comments or suggestions for this show? Send us an email at Hello@GoodtoBeHomePodcast.com!
Russ Perry: I’m Russ Perry.
Mika Perry: And I’m Mika Perry, and you’re listening to Good to Be Home.
Russ Perry: Good to Be Home is a weekly exploration of entrepreneurship, family, marriage, sobriety, and how we balance our business and life.
Mika Perry: From our family to yours, thanks for joining us, and welcome to our home.
Russ Perry: Hey everyone, welcome to another episode of Good to Be Home. I am your co-host, Russ Perry.
Mika Perry: And I’m Mika Perry.
Russ Perry: And, Mika, what are we talking about today?
Mika Perry: Well, today we are discussing and sharing what to do when you need to jump back into life. How do you get motivated again? How do you get the energy back? How do you get back into your systems and routines?
Specifically, we’re gonna use the example of when you’re home from travel, when you’re back, because that is typically where you find yourself very out of alignment, out of your routines, you’re a little bit scattered and frazzled, and not focused. And it’s something that’s actually applicable right this moment for us.
Russ Perry: We don’t just talk about the topic. We live the topic.
Mika Perry: And this is absolutely an example of that. So, Russ is… When did you land? Two hours ago?
Russ Perry: Yeah, I took a red eye from Kona back to Phoenix.
Mika Perry: And it just got me thinking of, you know, you are just jumping right into it. It doesn’t stop, and how do you keep that motivation and that energy and that focus? And I think it’s something, because I hear responses in conversations I have with email and social media from our listeners and followers, how do you stay motivated? How do you do all the things and keep going? And it’s especially hard after travel, so I thought this would be a great opportunity as we’re living it at the moment. We’re also leaving somewhere on Sunday. I’m leaving again as soon as we get back next weekend. It is a lot of travel and things that are happening in our lives, so I thought that this would be a great chance to share it with you today.
Russ Perry: All right. Well, we’re not gonna share it yet.
Mika Perry: Just yet.
Russ Perry: We’re gonna share something else. That is our reading, listening, eating, and loving list, which Mika compiles a monthly best-of at our website, goodtobehomepodcast.com. So, if you’re new to the podcast, go there, sign up. You can get a well-crafted, curated email on all the things that we speak through and talk about through the month.
As always, Mika, take us away for this week.
Mika Perry: Yep. So, this segment, reading, listening, eating, loving, if you’re new here. These are just our favorites and gives you kind of a snapshot at what we’re currently doing in these four areas.
So, reading. I am reading the book called The War of Art, not the art of war. This is a book I’ve had for a while now. Several months, I would say. And I’ve cracked it open a couple times, but now I have been, the last few nights while you’ve been traveling, at night, here is a visual of Mika Perry at nighttime after the kids are in bed. I’m sitting in our massage chair, our old personal massage chair. I have a fur blanket on me. I have the diffuser going with lavender, and I have my headphones on, which I’m gonna mention here what I’m listening to in a second here. And I am reading The War of Art.
The topic of this book is resistance. How to overcome resistance. And I think it’s very applicable to our topic today. And what I’ve learned from this is that resistance is huge in creation, and it is fabricated, it is real, it is imagined, it is actual. It really blocks people from achievement and fulfillment, and I applied this yesterday to a project that I’ve been procrastinating on, and I said, “Mika, this is resistance. Get over it, and do it.” So, I stepped into the task I needed to do, even though I didn’t want to. I had every excuse not to, because my main procrastination point was fear. I felt like I wasn’t gonna do a good job at it. But once I started, I worked on it for like four hours, I was in the zone.
Russ Perry: Right. The book is by Steven Pressfield. Actually, I had a copy a long time ago when I had my agency, ’cause I was always working with creatives and I was always feeling like I was struggling with them and with myself to create. But a similar author on the topic, Seth Goden, I don’t know if you’ve read of his stuff, talks a lot about the kinda same principles in a different light and lot of it comes down to just the decision to do it.
Mika Perry: Mm-hmm (affirmative). It really is.
Russ Perry: That’s a simple… I know it’s oversimplification, but it’s just you either do it or you don’t. And I love Seth Goden ’cause he’s like, “Writer’s block is a myth.” He’s like, “It’s just laziness,” is what he says.
Mika Perry: I love that. I love that.
So, I’ve been applying it to my life recently.
Listening. So, in that massage chair at night I am winding down and I have my Beats headphones on. [crosstalk]
Russ Perry: Is it like that, how it is?
Mika Perry: Okay. It’s kind of like that, yes.
So, what I’m listening to is called binaural beats. I’ve mentioned it here on the podcast before, but I’ve brought it back, especially as part of my nighttime routine. I’ve been putting it on when I do dishes, when I’m cleaning the house at the end of the night, and then also when I’m sitting here reading. And I view it as passive, inactive benefit for my brain.
I don’t have to do anything, and these sound waves are affecting my brain waves, which I think is kind of cool. I’m really into science. So, that’s what I’m listening to.
Eating. I am loving, and this is something I’ve been eating for a while, but an avocado, a half or a whole if I’m super hungry, with pink Himalayan salt for electrolytes. I have red chili flakes, lime juice, which I think is key in eating avocado. And then everything bagel seasoning, which I get from Trader Joe’s, but I also picked up, per the suggestion of several followers on Instagram, the big bottle of it from Costco. I haven’t opened it up yet, and there’s a big debate online on whether or not that one tastes better or worse, everyone has their preference. But so far I’ve only been using Trader Joe’s, and it’s really good.
Russ Perry: The big debate. The next big debate. What’s the poppy seed ratio between the two brands?
Mika Perry: I don’t know yet, Russ. I haven’t tried it.
Russ Perry: Oh, that’s right. It’s still unopened.
Mika Perry: Yeah. Visually, I have compared. I put the bottles up next to each other and looked at them. Pretty similar.
Russ Perry: Salt granule size comparable?
Mika Perry: Yes. So, I’ll report back.
Russ Perry: Good.
Mika Perry: But anyways, that’s a great way to eat an avocado, and it’s great, healthy fats.
Finally, loving, for me. I just wrote down here on my list “life.” I’m just loving life right now.
Russ Perry: That’s awesome.
Mika Perry: Yeah. And, specifically, I feel like the energy that I’ve been putting out there is kinda coming back. And I’m really loving, like, we have speaking engagements coming up, I have personal development trips that I’m going on, conferences that I’m attending, and I just love learning and expanding and growing. And I feel like I’m in that flow zone right now. So, it just makes me love life and be really grateful.
Russ Perry: What’s that big conference you’re going to at the end of March that maybe some listeners might be going to as well?
Mika Perry: Yes. Alt Summit.
Russ Perry: Right.
Mika Perry: Mm-hmm (affirmative). So, if you are listening and you’re gonna be there, if you are please let me know. Find me on the Alt Summit app and connect with me and hopefully I can meet you in person there.
Russ Perry: Very cool.
All right, so, I am reading the next book by one of my favorite authors, Cal Newport, and it is called Digital Minimalism. It is his follow-up book to one we’ve referenced many times, Deep Work, and this book is a book around our over-assumptions on the benefits of technology and how they do have a ton of benefit, but very much so with the unique purpose and the way he kinda describes it is, think about all of the things that you want in your life and if technology’s involved in that space, ask yourself, “Is this providing me the most benefit for the outcome I’m looking for?” And if it is, then it’s totally great to use that piece of technology, but what you’ll find is that many times the way we’re using technology is actually counterintuitive for the outcomes that we want in our social relationships and our business relationships, so on and so forth.
So, I’m excited about this book. I’ve actually started to train on it inside our private group, The Creative Syndicate, and teaching on how I’m using it, and the biggest thing I’ve done is I’ve actually deleted the social media apps, just the apps from my phone and I got out the old iPad and I have ’em on the iPad. So, when it’s time to be social media mode, I have to go find the iPad and use it and I’m not just mindlessly getting on these apps and wasting time not creating and producing.
Mika Perry: I love it. Has it been effective and helpful?
Russ Perry: Well, look at how much more I’ve posted recently on those social media apps. Posted a lot more and I’m doing it a lot less, so I think-
Mika Perry: It’s more focused.
Russ Perry: Correct.
Mika Perry: Yep.
Russ Perry: So, listening. I think a couple episodes ago I brought this band up, but I’ve discovered another single from Weezer called Mexican Fender. And it’s just a rock song. I love it. Weezer is still relevant, ladies and gentlemen, like 30 years later.
They’re coming out with album after album after album. They just are releasing their Black Album. They released a cover album that I mentioned is one of my favorites last couple weeks ago. The Teal Album. It was all cover songs. And this is singles from their album last year. So, I’m just so proud of ’em. So proud. And our kids now like Weezer too, which is really cool.
I’m eating this cool thing I made up. I kind of pieced this together on my latest Japan trip. It’s hot rice and egg mixed up with some soy sauce. Have you ever had that, Mika?
Mika Perry: Yes, you didn’t make it up and you didn’t piece it together. People in Japan have been eating this for millennia.
Russ Perry: I’m just teasing Mika. I actually did sort of share it with Mika, like, “This was the greatest breakfast ever. I had it on this tour with this Buddhist monk and we got hot rice and we cracked an egg and we mixed it with some soy sauce and we put it in the rice,” and she’s like, “I had that for breakfast basically every day when I lived in Japan.”
Mika Perry: Yeah, it’s like someone saying, “I discovered this thing called toast, and you put jam on it.”
Russ Perry: What’s it called in Japanese? The dish?
Mika Perry: Tamago kake gohan. So, tamago means egg and gohan means rice, so it’s just egg rice. And in Japan, I think, the eggs are fresher and a little bit more natural, so it’s okay to have the raw egg. Whereas here in America, I mean, you have to get good quality, which I know you have been going out of your way to go buy.
Russ Perry: Yeah. And that was what was shared with us, too, is you gotta make sure that egg is not a gross egg.
My item I’m loving? Japan and I got a tattoo. I really like my tattoo.
Mika Perry: Good, thank goodness ’cause it’s kind of-
Russ Perry: It’s kind of a permanent thing.
Mika Perry: It is.
Russ Perry: I went there, I met with a tattoo artist, Lil B, and I got some artwork from him and it’s been decades since I’ve gotten a tattoo, but I’m really excited about it. It’s a very cool experience that I went through.
Mika Perry: You got two tattoos.
Russ Perry: Yeah.
Mika Perry: And you’re going back for more. So, just note that. It’s not you got a little tattoo. This is mega tattoos here.
Russ Perry: Yeah, I’m in progress. I’m about halfway through with a full sleeve. But turned out well. I had no plan going into it.
Mika Perry: Turned out well. Thank goodness. I’m sure you guys can imagine my anxiety about this. I asked him, I was like, “So, what are your ideas? What do you wanna get?” Was like, “I have no idea.” I was so nervous when he came home. You were like, “Hey, Mika. I’m back.” I was like, “Great. Let me see it.”
Russ Perry: Right, right.
So, I just took a red eye from a work trip back from Hawaii. We were doing some filming and some training out there, building some content. Came back. I’m tired. I don’t have a lot of energy. Gotta roll into a couple hours of recording here for Good to Be Home, and we were just like, “Let’s do a podcast on this topic.” Not specific, necessarily, to travel, post-travel energy, but that’s a common time in which you feel not motivated, you feel drained. You just literally just wanna go home and jump in the jacuzzi and take a nap. This is what I wanna do. But I can’t. I got life to live and to do and obligations.
So, we put together a couple ideas for anyone to use in any situation on how we get back in the game. What’s our post routines for getting back on track, to tapping into that? And it may not be easy. I don’t feel 100% right now. But I’m doing it. And I’m breaking through the resistance, like you mentioned. [crosstalk]
Mika Perry: Exactly. Exactly. So, this is how we get that done.
Russ Perry: All right.
Mika Perry: All right. Do you wanna go through the list?
Russ Perry: Yeah. I mean, I got a couple. I’ll do a couple and we can pass it around.
Mika Perry: Okay.
Russ Perry: So the first thing always, because I do a lot of international travel, is always keep to your schedule wherever you get to and wherever you’re traveling. And this also can be applicable if you’re not traveling. If you’re feeling bleh, you gotta get up. You gotta go through the schedule. You gotta keep to the plan that you have for the day. When you travel, and it’s a six hour time difference, and you arrive, and it’s 4:00pm local time but 10:00pm back where you started, you just gotta power through it and stay up and stay awake and keeping to the schedule wherever you’re at in the world, in the time of day locally, just pushes you into the next kind of shift that will get you through the slump.
What could be very detrimental, which has happened to me before, is the two hour in the afternoon nap. The extra three hours sleeping in. That just keeps you off schedule for longer, and whatever you have planned, whether that’s work or vacation or family or even just unplugging, it’s harder to do when you’re not in a solid routine. So, I always have to just power through this and really think about it too. So, if I’m flying somewhere, I’ll think, “Do I sleep on the plane right now? Or do I stay up because I’m gonna get where I’m going and then I need to sleep a couple hours later so I’m not gonna sleep.” Or vice versa, like this morning I flew a red eye. I definitely slept on the plane ’cause I needed to wake up. Now I only slept three hours and it was in a prone, upright position against a cold plastic window, but I did my best to keep with the schedule on that.
Now, the next thing is wherever I’m traveling, wherever I’m going, or if I’m even at home and I’m just feeling groggy, shower and shave. Now, this may be basic 101 care, but I have found the showers in the airport, there’s always travel lounges you can go to, either get in with a credit card or you can buy a lounge access, real affordable. I shower and shave. This morning, I got back to the office, we have a locker room here at Design Pickle. First thing I did, I said hi and then I went in and I got cleaned up, just to wash off whatever is holding me back. There’s probably a lot of germs I’m actually cleaning off, especially post-travel, but metaphorically I just feel refreshed, I feel new. Brush your teeth, and you just go through that. And that doesn’t matter what time of day. That can be at night, middle of the day, I don’t care. It’s almost like re-booting the computer.
Mika Perry: Yeah, absolutely. Do you still do the cold shower? ‘Cause I started implementing that recently.
Russ Perry: Man. Sometimes. If I’m in my day to day routine I’ll do a cold shower. If I’m just hanging on, I’m not worried about it. I just am just getting into it, just a shower alone and getting to the next step. I don’t want it to be miserable. I just wanna get after it. [crosstalk]
Mika Perry: Yeah. Well, I’ve been doing it in the mornings when I… sometimes, even, I’m unmotivated to even shower. Like, it’s cold or whatever, but I know that it’s going to reset and re-boot my mind and my body. I have been doing an intermittent hot and cold and it feels great. [crosstalk] I really like it.
Russ Perry: You know, in our shower you can do one of each on the shower heads.
Mika Perry: I know. Mm-hmm (affirmative).
Russ Perry: And kinda jump around.
Mika Perry: Jump around, and then we have the rain shower too. I do the rain shower really cold, ’cause it’s just dumping on you.
Russ Perry: Nice.
Now, the last one I’ll put and then I’ll wanna pass it over to you is, as many of you know, I have a daily habit system called Core Four and you can go to goodtobehomepodcast.com, search for core four, the words core four, and you can find out all about that. But one of it is, I have a green smoothie every morning.
Don’t skip the green smoothie. Period. It is vital to keeping you straight, both from a nutrition standpoint, but also just the digestion standpoint, bowel movements, everything just keeps you regular. And I will seek out and find green smoothies wherever I’m at in the world for that one a day without fail. Had one this morning when I landed, when I got back to the office I made one, and it’s just, again, a familiar thing, not just for my mind but for my body, which so much of my energy is driven from it. And I’ve been eating snacks and cookies and crackers and stuff and sometimes when you’re just feeling out of sorts you’re not fueling yourself well. So, a green smoothie could honestly be the healthiest thing you eat all day, so don’t skip it. Make sure that is absolutely something that you’re focused on.
Mika Perry: It’s so true. I haven’t been feeling well, and so recently I started doing the celery juice. I got it, the 6-day celery juice thing from Nectar, which is a local juice bar, and I’ve been putting greens into my body first thing in the morning and then letting it sit for 30 minutes. So far, so good.
Russ Perry: Right.
Mika Perry: But it’s true. When you’re feeling down, you need that physical nourishment and boost as well.
Russ Perry: Right. [crosstalk]
And it’s just simple. I mean, my green smoothie is water, Orgain chocolate protein powder from Costco, some chia seeds, sometimes some hemp or flax seed if I’m feeling real crazy, spinach, if I’m on the road I’ll have amazing greens powder that I’ll take, and then ice. So, it’s just like, takes two seconds to make, and you drink it and you’re done, and you don’t have to find a dish or a meal. You can do it on the go. So, it’s really, really convenient as well.
Mika Perry: So, seek out your greens.
Russ Perry: Seek out your greens. All right, Mika.
Mika Perry: Okay. So, for me, I am going to continue on that topic of tips of your body. So, these are all ways to get your mind and your body reset and in the zone.
For me, supplements. My supplement routine is huge. I take it with me, and I invest a lot of time into it, getting it all organized and ready for travel, and having that there when I’m traveling, and then when I get back, at home I have a regular AM and PM supplement routine.
We are going to have, actually, my naturopath, my doctor, on the show, FYI, guys. So, when she comes on, I will get into the details of the supplements I take. But I will just say, off the top of my head, just things that address your thyroid, your hormone, your mental clarity, your digestion, your gut health, all affect your brain and mindset. It’s insane what those things can do as far as affecting your mood, your energy, your focus. So, my supplements are super important to me, and I make sure to take it every morning, every night. Sometimes I miss it. That’s life, but I just jump right back on track.
So, that brings up systems, like I have a supplement system. Systems are huge. Systems I’m all about because it’s a way to mindlessly get back into what you know is good for you. So, example: morning routines, night routines, going through your inbox routines, a workout routine. It’s steps that you’ve established when you had more energy and you had clear mind that you know, okay, these are the things I need to do to feel good, to be energetic, to be focused, and be happy. And so when you’re not feeling all those things, as long as you follow the steps, you will feel better. And I will hit resistance every single time when I am unmotivated, when I’m feeling hormonally imbalanced, and everything sucks. Like, I don’t like life, everything is hard, you are just not there.
I step into those routines. I step into the morning routine. I clean up the house at night. I get ready for the next day, pushing through that resistance and tiredness, and every single time when I’m done, I feel better, I think better, I am just in a better place.
Russ Perry: Right. Love it.
Mika Perry: Oils. I’m gonna mention oils. [crosstalk] Not too long, guys.
Russ Perry: What are these oils you mention?
Mika Perry: Oh my gosh, I feel like I talk about essential oils all the time, but I think it’s really quick and easy way to get your mind and your body into whatever mood you want to be in. It’s incredible the olfactory factor in your brain that triggers memory, mood, thought patterns, and aroma does that.
And so lavender will put you in a certain mood. Peppermint will put you in a certain mood. Right now, I have a little bit of congestion, so I have this oil that has camphor and cinnamon and wintergreen and peppermint, and inhaling that, it just physically makes you more refreshed, but it also mentally sharpens you. So, I travel with it, I diffuse it, I apply it, I inhale oils. I even put lemon or peppermint oils into my water when I need a little boost. There are some ones that are really good for digestion, so when I feel like my stomach’s off then I’ll use that. You know, it may not be everyone’s thing, and that’s fine, but I think there are great benefits, and it’s easy to implement.
Russ Perry: Can I add?
Mika Perry: Mm-hmm (affirmative).
Russ Perry: Music can have a very similar [crosstalk]
Mika Perry: Absolutely.
Russ Perry: Thing as well.
Mika Perry: Yep. So, music-
Russ Perry: Oh, is that on your list?
Mika Perry: It is on my list.
Russ Perry: Oh, okay, awesome.
Mika Perry: Music. So, your environment, and using your senses. This is kind of touching on the five senses, is also if you have an environment of good sound it really does put you in the mood. Think about when you go and work out. You put on music, and you get pumped up.
Russ Perry: Right, like Run the Jewels hip hop.
Mika Perry: Sure.
But, similarly, if you need to focus, decide what music fuels you in, whether it’s creativity or focus or being on task, whatever, it really sets the mood and the tone in the environment that you’re at.
So, I love Bossa Nova in the morning, classical. I love binaural beats, which I mentioned earlier in my reading, listening, eating, loving, and I’ll put those on with intention to click my body and my mind out of whatever funk I’m in.
Russ Perry: Right. When I was getting my tattoo, Lil B would shout out to Siri, ’cause he had the Home Pod speaker like I have in my office, “Hey, Siri, play some hip hop jazz.” And it was the coolest playlist, and that’s what I’ve been listening to as background music. There’s this whole genre in music, hip hop jazz, where it’s beats and R&B but real relaxed, and more spoken word and stuff, and so you can have it on in the background.
Mika Perry: Oh, that’s cool. I can imagine what that probably sounds like.
Russ Perry: Yeah.
Mika Perry: Yeah. So, definitely music too.
Okay, I’m gonna throw it back to you for more of your tips.
Russ Perry: Okay, so always, always, always, always, always, I like to pretend my trips or my obligations or whatever, my projects, if I have a big event here in Scottsdale, I always pretend they’re actually one day longer than they are, and my trip is one day longer, I’m gone one day longer, and then when I get back and that’s not the case, I have what I call a buffer day. So, today is actually a buffer day. Now, I still have a few things scheduled. Our recording, a call with a client later this afternoon, but that’s it. So, I can relax, we can go get lunch, it’s like an on-ramp back to the chaos and the week.
Now, as soon as we get home and the kids get home and all of that, I’ll just be right into the regular routines, but it’s nice to have the space. Maybe it’s an hour, or a couple hours, where you land and you go get a massage or something. But I’ve done it time and time again, and it’s just nice because, inevitably, things will come up, and you have space to plan around that. If it’s a delayed flight, or whatever, these buffer days are critical for getting back into the mix with it all.
Mika Perry: Totally. And it not only gives you time buffer, but mental buffer. You’re not worried on the flight home about all the meetings and things you have to attend to right away.
Russ Perry: I mean, I worry about recording these episodes. [crosstalk]
Mika Perry: Oh, stop.
Russ Perry: I wanna make sure they’re good. But you’re right.
And then when things do come up, you’re like, “Hey, can we schedule some recording?” I’m like, “Absolutely.” I have the space for it.
Now, recently we did an episode on love languages, and I would say make an attempt to connect with those that are important to you, your partner, your husband, your wife, your kids, in a meaningful way to fill your love tank.
So, right now, one of my love languages… Well, not right now, but one of my love languages is quality time, so you asking me to spend time and work and record and all of that is like, “Yeah, of course I wanna do that,” ’cause I get to spend time with you. So, it’s a win-win for both of us. And the better you understand how to plan that, the more you can use those as a way to refuel and recharge with whatever it is. We have a date night this weekend. We’re plugging in, and we don’t lose track of that even if we’re feeling down, exhausted, tired. Very, very important to keep focused on that.
And my final item that I have here, super practical, but something that I’ve started doing, thanks to Mr. Cal Newport and Digital Minimalism, is I am not getting wrapped up in email until energetically I’m back on track.
So, if you think about email, and messaging in general. Could be your inbox on Instagram, or messenger in Facebook. Whatever you go in there, it’s people needing other stuff from you. So, it’s like an energy deficit when it’s time for email. I gotta do stuff, I gotta decide, I gotta help people, I gotta give people answers and creative ideas and whatever. So, the last thing you wanna do is when you’re feeling down, you’re feeling less than optimal, is go into this environment where all that’s gonna happen is your energy’s gonna be continued to be drained. So, even if it causes a tiny bit of stress ’cause your email’s built up, you haven’t checked it in a while, waiting until the next day or where you just have a good, refreshed vibe about you, that’s when you jump into email. You’ll A) do it faster, ’cause you’ll have more clarity and focus, and B) energetically it won’t be something that just totally wipes you out.
I actually did email yesterday before we flew home, for the first time I logged in my email in four days, although two of those were weekend days, and that was great. We had just eaten, it was before the red eye flight, and I did four days of email in about 45 minutes. And nothing was crazy urgent. Everyone got my full attention and focus with that. Had I tried to do that this morning when I got back from my trip, it would’ve taken me two hours and I would’ve been super distracted, thinking about other stuff, and it would just be not a worthwhile task.
Mika Perry: Now, from Cal Newport’s other book, Deep Work, he talked about just how shallow and surface and actually unproductive email and messaging is. It’s false productivity, and it gets nowhere near the depth that you need to actually be productive, in a way. So, that seems like, “Oh, top of mine. I need to be in my inbox, I need to be on my email, respond to people.” You feel that that’s productive, but it’s such an energy suck in certain ways, in many ways. And to make that a focus, whether you’re traveling or when you get back, like the first thing you do is respond to messages, it’s just not a very good mindset. It’s a very reactionary spot to be in. So, I think that’s super smart, to put that off until you can dedicate a very focused amount of time to that.
Russ Perry: Right. And, as you’re sharing that, I would imagine we all, whether it’s email or something else, there’s probably some mindless stuff we go to when we’re exhausted and we’re wiped. And just be really cognizant of that. When you’re at this lower state of energy, this lower state of focus, and you need to refuel, recharge, and get back on track, make sure you’re focusing on that, and you’re not getting wrapped up in email or meaningless conversations, or just randomness around the house, or TV or sedation. That doesn’t actually fuel you back up, and just prolongs your depleted state.
Mika Perry: Yeah. The things that we’ve mentioned here, the tips, and I have a few more here I’m going to share, but they’re all life-giving. They’re positive, they’re enriching, they spark creativity, and energize you. So, these are not more busy work, you know?
So, a few more things that I have here. You mentioned your green juice, but sometimes if I’m traveling or if I’m home and I feel like I need a little boost, I will go get things that are actually basically called a boost or a shot of ginger, lemon, cayenne, turmeric, greens, anti-inflammatory things, and that’s a really quick way to make you feel a little bit better. I really do believe in those ingredients, but at the least amount it could be a placebo, and if you take a shot of something that says it’s gonna help you be- [crosstalk]
Russ Perry: If you take a shot of anything with cayenne pepper in it, you’ll feel different, period.
Mika Perry: Absolutely.
I also wanna mention here, another tip is to take care of your environment visually. So, I’ve talked about scents, I’ve talked about sounds. Your environment, the visual landscape that you’re working in when you get home, take care of that. Clutter’s gonna stress you out. So, that’s why I’m such a big proponent of organization and unpacking. If it’s after you’ve traveled, get that suitcase unpacked. Just like clutter in any other area, if you have something lingering there it’s just gonna be this small reminder of what you haven’t done yet, and that’s super annoying.
So, having systems of organization will help you put those things back to where they belong so it goes really fast. I love that I know where to put all of my travel stuff. I love that I know where things go in my closet so that unpacking and getting back to the regular routines is quicker, ’cause I can just clear that visual horizon or whatever that I’m in.
Russ Perry: Good.
Mika Perry: I think it’s beyond important. When you get back from your trip, make that first night home really quality, enjoyable. Do everything you can with sounds, sights, feeling, texture. Make it a spa-like experience as much as you can. Do your skincare.
Russ Perry: Diffusers two ways.
Mika Perry: Yeah, diffuse the heck out of your space. And invest the time into achieving quality sleep. Go to bed early. Put the phone away. You and I now both use an alarm clock. We don’t have the phones next to our beds. And use that to re-energize your body for the next day.
Russ Perry: Love it.
So, we hope this set of items, ideas, habits, behaviors can help you the next time that you’re feeling just out of sorts. Maybe you just got back from a big trip like I did this morning, maybe it’s just been a really long week, and you are feeling like your tank is on E. These are gonna be things that are practical. They’re simple. But, as you said, Mika, the number one thing is getting yourself back on track, but making sure you’re doing those things that build you back up, that fill you up, that provide that energetic, you said that are life-giving. I like that term a lot.
It’s so easy to get sucked into other people’s priorities. It’s so easy to just think, “I gotta do these things for other folks or my company or the family or whatever.” And the reality is, is if you’re not well, you’re not at your top level, then they’re getting just a fraction of you, and that’s a disservice to them. It’s better to check, like mom and dad are gonna check out for 12 hours and come back super focused and ready versus just rolling right into the next thing at 10 or 20% and perpetuating this state even longer.
Mika Perry: Absolutely.
Russ Perry: So, that wraps up this week episode of Good to Be Home, and, as always, we would love, love, love, love it if you could share this episode, whether that’s a Instagram post, a link sending this to someone you love who might need a few reminders of self care and the topics we’ve talked about. And you can always go to goodtobehomepodcast.com to get subscribed for when we publish new episodes.
Mika, you’ve been taking care of that once a month and I’m pretty excited about it.
Mika Perry: Yep, and also weekly reminders of when those episodes are going out.
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Russ Perry: Awesome. Well, have a great week. We’ll talk to you guys next week, and thanks so much.
Mika Perry: Bye.
Russ Perry: Thanks for listening to this episode of Good to Be Home.
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Russ Perry: See ya next time.